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    Dear Edith: Trusting Men

    Catholic women answer: how can you trust again after a breakup? FemCatholic.com

    Dear Edith,

    2 years ago (almost) I broke up with my then boyfriend. We were best friends for 8 years, and I only had started dating him after he left seminary.

    We dated for 6 months, but come to find out he had been cheating on me for the duration of my relationship (was he cheating on God too because he was hooking up with girls while in seminary 🤔).

    While I’m grateful to be out of the relationship, and even more grateful to say that me and the “other woman” are now best friends, I still find my self struggling to trust men.

    The few dates I’ve been on I’ve been rambling and nervous. I get nervous when men touch me (hugging, handshakes, shoulder touches). The only men I feel comfortable around are relatives, gay men, and guys whom my other lady friends are dating.

    My mom insists that I wait for a “good catholic man” but my ex seemed like a “good catholic man” so I can’t even trust that.

    What are some tips for trusting men, or trusting people in general when I’ve been hurt so badly?

    — Anonymous


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    The one big thing missing from the Working Mom debate 

    The big thing missing from the working mom debate for Catholic women mothers -- FemCatholic.com

    “Oh, I’m going to be a stay-at-home mom,” she said, surrounded by the other women at brunch.

    They nodded, giving their approval, and the affirmation so many Catholic women seek these days.

    I get it.

    We want to acknowledge the value in staying home, in foregoing apparent worldly success in order to give day in and day out to one’s family. Because for all the advancements feminism has brought women, greater recognition of caregiving and homemaking hasn’t been one of them.

    Because for all the advancements feminism has brought women, greater recognition of caregiving and homemaking hasn’t been one of them.

    But what if in proclaiming their desire to be SAHMs, women think they’ve rejected modern feminism, and they’ve actually given into it?

    Let me explain.

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    Dear Edith Response #1 – Brittany

    Dear Edith: I'm Not Maternal - read response #1 here on FemCatholic.com

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    Dear I’m Not Maternal,

    Regarding the lack of maternal feelings . . . I used to want to be a nun.

    In fact, I’d often remark that I found the idea of sex repulsive, and childbirth? Forget it. “Take my womb; I don’t need it!”

    Then, I had what could only be described as a divine dream. It helped me realize that the path toward the convent was not what God wanted for me; this shook my sense of self, because I felt that a woman’s identity in the Church seemed to be built around holy virginity or mothering as many children as possible. I really struggled with God’s will for a long time, and it took therapy for me to discover that a large portion of my desire for the convent was my fear of intimacy and my unwillingness to surrender control. . .

    I felt that a woman’s identity in the Church seemed to be built around holy virginity or mothering as many children as possible.

    Then I met THE ONE. It was like a light bulb went off and I realized why I wasn’t meant for the convent after all. I still wasn’t keen on the idea of children, though. I was a strong, independent woman who resented the box that society tries to put women in.

    Now, I didn’t mind other people’s kids. Heck, I was a teacher! But surely I was too impatient/selfish/unfit for motherhood. I had more to offer life than another human on an already crowded planet.

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    Dear Edith Response #3 – Catherine

    Dear Edith finding meaning as a SAHM -- FemCatholic.com

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    Dear Annemarie,

    I felt a little envious when I first read of your plight to be quite honest.

    Studying and working, newly married (TEN months before baby born), sick as a dog and incredibly busy, I was in denial about the realities for a good part of my first pregnancy. I winged it completely, cried at the birthing classes, couldn’t do the breathing, ran out of the birth video in horror.

    With the hindsight of 25 years and 5 children, what would I do differently?

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    Dear Edith Response #2 – A mom who remembers

    Finding Meaning as a SAHM -- FemCatholic.com

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    Dear Annemarie,

    I, too, experienced health complications as a young wife and mother to be. Due to my health, I could no longer fulfill my duties at work. I remember going through a stage of trying to be the Proverbs 31 woman and the perfect housewife.

    I soon found, however, that I was very bored. And anxious. And ashamed of myself for being “just a housewife.”
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    3 good reasons Catholics should be feminists

    3 good reasons for Catholics to be feminists -- FemCatholic.com

    If you’ve heard that being a feminist is anti-Catholic, think again.

    In today’s world, being a Catholic can be controversial. Especially when it comes to women’s rights.

    Feminism has a history of advocating for things that the Catholic Church contends with, whether it be outright support of abortion, or just the connotation that mothering isn’t valuable work.

    So it’s not uncommon for a Catholic to cringe at the word “feminist.”

    But in 1995, St. Pope John Paul II actually issued a call for women to rise up in the name of feminism – a call for a “new feminism.”

    And if feminism is good enough for a Pope who’s also now a canonized saint, well, it’s good enough for me.

    Here’s three good reasons Catholics should be proud to sport the (new) feminist label:

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