October 31, 2021

October 29, 2021: The big secret club no woman wants to join

It's so normal but it doesn't feel normal

From an early age we’re taught that as women, we can get pregnant. Magazines, doctors, and even our parents talk a lot about how to not get pregnant before we’re ready. But still not enough people talk about how common it is for women to get pregnant - and then actually miscarry.

It’s a big secret club that no woman wants to join
As many as 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage (even more for black women) - so women and couples are not alone in this experience. But miscarriage can be an isolating experience, with many women feeling ashamed of or betrayed by their bodies.

So let's change that...
October is National Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month. Up to 46% of women feel alone when they miscarry, and it helps to talk about it. Whether you have had a miscarriage yourself, or just want to be a supportive friend, acknowledging the loss can go a long way.

It's a big conversation that many couples are unprepared for, too.

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Very little is known about why women miscarry, but some women are passionately searching for answers. And progesterone seems to offer moms and babies a better chance.

Some women are using their political influence to push for paid leave for pregnancy loss. Others are using their gifts to host retreats and write books. We’re grateful to see more people talking about this experience that is so common for women.

Here are a few other top picks for the week...

READ: How to Support a Friend Going Through Pregnancy Loss
A bereavement doula shares three do's and don'ts when it comes to supporting a friend through this difficult time.

WATCH: The Cool Girl Trope, Explained
She's not like other girls. She's a COOL girl. But does this fun, junk food-loving "hottie" actually exist? This video explores what's behind the myth.

LISTEN: 'Día de Muertos' Spotify Playlist
Para honrar a los muertos con el más sublime placer terrenal.

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